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Saturday, August 8, 2009

Are Stafford Breeders Control Freaks LOL

Well it got me thinking and you know when you have dealt with someone and you have to describe that person to someone else LOL so I decided to look into Control Freaks and OMG how funny....Now the thing is we can all be a bit controlling as we don't want a complete routine free life and even if we did it would be near damn impossible as routine starts right from when you pop out into the world and you have to fit into to society, its requirements and rules...Some of us rebel and reading about control freaks I probably fall into the milder category as I am quite big on self sabotage and self ridicule....I know that I am pretty self assertive and possibly even quite dominant as well so where the insecurities come from who knows...Maybe we are all self doubters and control freaks to a degree but do breeders admit to breeding crap and if they don't win at a show do they blame the judge for being an Arse Hole of course they do, so if you are racing cars and you crash its your fault or if something failed mechanically then there is reason to blame that, if your a sprinter and you fall its bad luck or your fault but if your tendon snaps you feel you have failed in some way....
But the scary bit is, it is without any doubt the ideal ground of showing world for the control freaks to hang in and some are far worse than others and unfortunately we all know one or worse can work with one and when one meets another just wait for the fire works to go off....Now the real bad control freak for sake of argument we can call that person P and I will leave that to the imagination of who ever decides to come on here and read
P likes to ridicule and bully you with P's ideas as P's ideas are the only ones that counts and when P doesn't get the result P needs P then goes public to ridicule you.....The bit I am now certain on is how P on the same day has not won the battle with you P has to place pic's to be viewed for some form of confirmation on how *ucking wonderful P is as P needs to affirm that P is right and you and most others are not....You cant win with a P

The Control Freak

In related slang, Control Freak is a derogatory term for a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is done. It can also refer to someone with a limited number of things that they want done a specific way; professor of clinical psychology wrote that "Control Freaks are people who care more than you do about something and won't stop at being pushy to get their way.
In some cases, the control freak sees their constant intervention as beneficial or even necessary; this can be caused by feelings of superiority, believing that others are incapable of handling matters properly, or the fear that things will go wrong if they don't attend to every detail. In other cases, they may simply enjoy the feeling of power it gives them so much that they automatically try to gain control of everything around them.
Control freaks are highly manipulative, cunning, intimidating, and skilled at debate and masters at distorting the real truth in a given situation. They will resort to almost anything to get their own way no matter how wrong and illogical it may be. They simply have to be in control to feel good about themselves.
They are usually successful people at work and climb the ladder easily as they are so convincing to all around them , they spend endless hours perfecting their skills and usually are great preachers or dictators but have difficulty in trusting anyone and question everything

Being in control of every situation is their way of protecting themselves but they take it to such extremes that it affects everyone around them including their own partners and family. Certain types of control freaks not only have to control the situation but also have to mentally bully you into submission in order for them to feel better about themselves. They use their anger as a weapon if they can't get their own way.

It is not easy dealing with an angry controlling person  like this. Your humiliation and weakness empowers them. Your own self-esteem can be so affected by their bullying nature that sometimes the only solution is to walk out the door and start a new life without them.

Trying to change someone who has a domineering personality is a virtually impossible task as they don't see things like most other people.  Everything they do is geared to their own needs and woe betide anyone who tries to stop them getting what they want.  They are like a spoilt child who never really grew up.

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